Talking about sexually transmitted diseases: sex and communication
Are we talking about sexual infections?
As the temperature rises, we look forward to sunny days and warm nights! So why not also have a clarifying conversation about sexually transmitted diseases? The stigmatization of sexually transmitted infections, which makes open discussions difficult, ultimately leads to their spread and increases the risk of infection.
Dirty talk – but safe
We know that sometimes it’s easier to talk about sex than STIs. But just as it is important to talk about preferences and consent in bed, it is also important to talk about sexual infections.
So be prepared and talk openly about your boundaries, your needs and safer sex. Keep an eye on your partner’s lifestyle and sex life. These conversations can also be practiced with trusted partners or friends in order to become more confident in communication.
A question like “You don’t have an STD, do you?” doesn’t make you feel relaxed or safe. However, it will be sexy if you are familiar with transmission routes and prevention options and can have a factual and calm conversation.
Transmission routes of sexually transmitted diseases
Most STIs are transmitted through unprotected anal, oral or vaginal intercourse. It is also possible to become infected through shared sex toys. Many of the diseases are asymptomatic and only regular tests provide clarity.
Conversation starters: How do I talk about sexually transmitted diseases?
We often loosen the reins, especially on vacation. A few well-prepared sentences can help you to get through the summer healthy and sexually fulfilled:
“Syphilis, gonorrhea and HIV were negative.”
“Before things get really wild, we should talk briefly about our protection against sexually transmitted diseases.”
“I am HIV-positive, but the virus is not transmissible under my current therapy.”
At the end of the day, there is only one thing that will provide reliable clarity about your sexual health: testing. So it’s best to get tested for the most common sexually transmitted diseases before and after a wild summer.
